How to let go
Couple of weeks ago something happened that caused me feeling upset, disappointed and angry. I know various meditations, exercises, energy healing methods how to let go of things, yet on this occasion I really struggled. Nothing seemed to be working, and the most annoying part – the event that caused me feeling this way, wasn’t even that serious. It took me a while, but finally I came up with a 3 step method that should help to let go of even the strongest emotions.
1.TALK TO YOUR SENSES
It is a very basic step, but just in case you haven’t done it, it is worth asking yourself couple of obvious questions: is the incident really serious? Would it matter in a month, or a year? If not, why do you waste your energy now on something that wouldn’t matter in couple of weeks? It is also worth remembering that we all have free will and we have right to feel different. Don't expect people to have the same set of standards or morals as you. They don't have to act same way you would act.
2.REALISE
Your emotions belong to you. You are the only one responsible for them. You have a choice of how you feel, but unfortunately too often we give that freedom away. That often lead to feeling like a victim. We blame others: he made me feel sad, she pushed my buttons and now I am angry. But the truth is at any given moment you can step back and say to yourself: this is my good mood and I will not allow this person's words and actions to influence me. I am not giving them this power over me. This is my anger, and I am in full of control of it, and right now, I am choosing not to feel angry anymore.
3.VISUALISE
If two previous steps didn’t help, do this visualisation. Close your eyes and remember the situation that caused you negative emotions and try to feel them again. Bring them up to the surface. Don't fight them, don't try to hide them. Resistance cause them to be stronger. So feel them again. Actually, the stronger you can feel them, the better. Accept that this negative feeling is your feeling. It is a part of you. Focus on that emotion. Where do you feel it? Which body part. How does it feel? Intensify it. And now how do you visualise this emotion? Color? Shape? Texture? Smell?
In my case I could feel the disappointment in my stomach. And I visualised it as dark, heavy clouds. So I imagined wind coming and blowing the clouds away so there's nothing left but clear sky. I moved to the next emotion. This time it was anger in my heart. For few moments I allowed myself to feel that anger, and then I imagined it like a mirror covering, blocking, and restricting my heart. So I visualised a hammer that breaks the mirror into thousands pieces. Pieces small like a grain of sand. Or even smaller. So small that they practically don't exist anymore. My heart was now free. At this point I already felt big relief. I felt lighter and suddenly all the negativity I carried for last 3 days just wasn't there anymore. If you decide to follow those 3 steps, please let me know how it went